Many of us have had the unappealing experience of getting ghosted by someone we were truly into. Whether it was after a first date, after texting for a while, or even after sex—it sucks to be ghosted at all. After all, we do like to have the ball in our own court to ghost someone, rather than get ghosted by them. Who doesn’t like a bit of control? But, how do we decide to respond by those who have ghosted us, other than complaining to our very best friends about it and cry into a pint of Ben and Jerry’s?
One Twitter user came up with a brand new system that is not only convenient but also brilliant. @calamityjaz shared a Google survey that she sends out to men who have ghosted her, asking very specific questions to narrow down the true reason as to why she didn’t get a text/call back.
Her initial opening reads:
“Hi! It’s me! Jaz! If I sent you this survey, it’s because you abruptly stopped responding to our conversation, you outright ghosted me, and/or we unexpectedly fell out of contact in some way. I am, of course, devastated beyond repair, as your attention was all that was sustaining me in these troubled times, but somehow, I’ll soldier on. However, I’m curious, and curiosity demands data.”
She goes on to give the men multiple choice options to provide their name, how they were in contact, and exactly why they ghosted her.
So I sent a Google survey to everyone who’s ghosted me in the last six months pic.twitter.com/7hf66t7ssX
— jaz sufi (@calamityjaz) December 2, 2018
Obviously, as we expected, people on Twitter were fans of Jaz’s decision and cleverness to come up with such a great way to approach people who just don’t want to speak to her. And, they wanted answers.
This is good shit
— CaptainClout (@zckbartell) December 3, 2018
I would pay money to see these responses
— Ellace Henderson (@OfficialEllace) December 3, 2018
As someone who does data visualisation for a living, I am very keen to see the results.
— Shanan Kan (@ShananKan) December 3, 2018
YOU ARE MY HERO. THE OBAMA QUESTION IS SOLID GOLD.
— ?why is the carpet all wet, todd? (@copcar97) December 3, 2018
WHERES THE DATA
— picoso thot (@thotsoraymond) December 3, 2018
Can you send me the survey so I can send it to others
— electric chair? (@crystalizedkid) December 3, 2018
If I were teaching research methods next semester we would spend a class period discussing this survey design.
— Dawn Gilpin ??? (@drgilpin) December 3, 2018
PLEASE GIVE US THE DATA COLLECTED
— The Wrock Snob (@WrockSnob) December 3, 2018
Unfortunately, Jaz let Twitter users know that so far, she has not gotten any responses to the survey yet—and she doesn’t think she will. But, it does lead to some inspiration for the rest of us who may have been/will be ghosted by people we like. Instead of sending a drunk text at 3 A.M. on a Saturday, why not send a pretty well-worded survey to get answers, right?